Welcome To My Blog

My name is Carmella...and I want to welcome you to my blog...

I have been writing short stories and short emotional outbursts for quite a few years. Some of them will remain private and some I will share…most are sharing worthy, BUT not everything I have felt or done in my life would be accepted with an open mind, so for that reason, I need to be careful what I lay on these pages for the world to see…

I am the oldest of 5 children, I never really had a childhood…I was a small adult, adulting my siblings AND my parents too…in my truth I had a pretty good childhood and upbringing, better than most, but far from perfect…but I was definitely the referee between my parents for their shenanigans…and by shenanigans I mean their crazy bizarre relationship…

I come from an Italian heritage with only a second-generation American upbringing, so there is a code of which we live our lives…there are emotions, traditions, superstitions, opinions, beliefs, honor, integrity, dignity…the list goes on and on but loyalty and pride were the top two ways of life…never ever to waiver…NO MATTER WHAT…

Mom was a stay at home mom…so we had the privilege of her being there for all of our meals, help with homework, lessons in cooking, lots of music, lots of family gatherings, traditions and our belief in God...Dad had a few careers along the way…he owned a pizza restaurant, he worked as a chef at an Italian restaurant, he worked at a textile plant, then he went into construction (he was always good at making things and remodeling the house-I believe this was his true passion)…but the one thing, no matter what he did…this man provided for us…not always with steak and potatoes on the table…but there was always food and there was always at least 3 meals a day…we always had a roof over our heads, and a warm place to call home…we didn’t have much but we did have more than some of the other families in our neighborhood…for that reason, my work ethic as well as all 4 of my siblings is this…we are workaholics, we all bust our asses to provide for ourselves, our families and for others in need…

I became a mom and wife at 17…then had my second child at 19, then got a divorce at 21 and I had my 3^rd child at 22…My two oldest share the same sperm donor and my youngest, my only son, had a different sperm donor…and I use the words sperm donor intentionally because both of these men walked away and never even tried to return FOR THE KIDS…not ever…this anger was never for me or my pride, that was irrelevant…but both walked away and neither ever returned to their children…EVER…this will all make sense when I explain my “man picker”…but that will be later…

So I was a mother, a teenager, a wife, a hard worker, a housewife, a lover, a good friend, daughter, sister…blah blah blah…I was everything to everyone…and I even thought I was everything for myself…or so I thought, and what I truly believed for most of my life…

I was married one more time in my 30’s-and I had many life changes between the ages of 30 and 60...(so there will be many stories for me to tell) Then I earned my certificate as a life coach in 2014, THEN I divorced in 2015…THEN I sowed my wild oats…and ohhhh what a sowing it was…

So within this blog, you will hear about my childhood, being a mom, grandma a GG, a lover, a woman, a friend, a loner, a business owner, a sister, a daughter, an empath, a human…

I will bare my heart and soul, share some of my secrets, my hopes, my dreams, and my opinions...because I have many opinions...

Looking back, my journey has been anything but ordinary. Every chapter brought unique challenges and unexpected joys, shaping me into the person I am today. Through every twist and turn, I learned to adapt, to love fiercely, and to never give up on myself…

This blog is on my Life Coaching page intentionally…I have lots of things to share that a lot of you may relate to…some will bring tears to your eyes and some will have you laughing until your cheeks hurt…but it’s me…and if I am getting to know you, you might just want to get to know me…

I pride myself in being the person I am…loyal, honest, proud, kind, loving, forgiving, generous, humble, empathetic, filled with integrity, a great secret keeper, a cheerleader, motivational, spiritual, one with the universe and one with God (I will never push my beliefs on anyone)…I love deeply, fiercely…I carry the burdens of anyone who needs help carrying their load…I hate seeing people suffer, I hate seeing people abused, mistreated, taken advantage of or abandoned, whether by a loved one, a boss, a child, a friend, or even by themselves…

I do hope you'll enjoy my stories and experiences; I am excited and filled with anticipation to finally share my life...and from time to time I will post writings of others that I find to be meaningful and helpful to anyone reading it, and I will share who the writer is or keep them anonymous if they choose to keep their identity private, but I will always let you know if it was written by me or not...

I hope to see you in some of my life coaching sessions, but my wish upon wish is that you all read my blog...

Thank you for joining me on this adventure...it's going to be an amazing ride...